I've been called an Apostababe...I feel so darn SEXY right now!!!
Oh Darling Husband....
Goodnight!
WG
I've been called an Apostababe...I feel so darn SEXY right now!!!
Oh Darling Husband....
Goodnight!
WG
well, first thanks all for the posts before i left,.
it went great,,,,i did not recognize him,,,,i couldnt believe it,,what a fine young man he became,,,,we had 2 hours of wonderful talking together (bad grammer but i am still in a fog:).
when it was over we stood outside coffee shot for a few min and i am sure i saw a few tears, then he hugged me, for quite a few seconds...and basically he said he would leave in my hands to contact him,,,,here i was worried he wouldnt want to see me for another 9 years.
I am so happy for you. It sounds like your Christmas present came early. I hope you continue to keep in contact and be loving towards eachother.
WG
I liked the old one better.....but this one is nice too.
WG
as many of you know, i have a myspace.com account.. apparently, while i was out last night, someone called my mother and informed her of my activities on myspace.
my mother called and asked me for my login info, and was shocked to see me, and around 40 witnesses in my area having active profiles.
contents of these profile ranged from a few pictures to downright self-incrimination.
I would find out who ratted you out and make them pay! What were they doing on the internet anyway!!
I'm sorry this is happening to you - but unfortunately as others have said what you did was right out there in the public eye...
You really should take the XFiles approach when dealing with other JW's.....Trust no one!
If you get pulled into a JC...blame someone you don't like and say they stumbled you and say you're sorry and maybe cry....if you cry they will think your repentant.
Keep in touch with us when you can.
Good luck!
WG
anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.
i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.
any experiences?
Under 74,
I think all of us with dysfunctional familes are related! LOL...
I always say...my family put the funk...in dysfunctional....LOL!
WG
i'm back!
with more questions for "unbelieving mates" of jehovah's witnesses, or ubm's.
tetrapod, i haven't forgotten you, and i'm working on a follow-up thread on friendships as well.
1. How did your mixed marriage happen?
d) Other - explain!
I met my husband on the internet. We talked for 3 months then met in person. We spent 3 weeks together, he went home for one week packed his stuff and we've been together ever since...8 years. He didn't tell me he had even been raised as a JW until we had already been livng together for 3 months. Then a lot of things made sense...!!! LOL!!! He told me he had been away for a long time and didn't think he would ever go back. I believed him. We lived together for 2 years, got pregnant, got married and the weekend we came home from getting married - a month and a half before our first son was born he decided to go back to the meetings and start studying again. I went with him until I started researching the JW's because what they taught me in my bible studies didn't match up with what I had been taught growing up.
2. Did the two of you talk about your different beliefs and how you were raised before you committed to the other?
We talked about everything when he finally told me he had been raised a JW. Before that we were just completely in love with eachother. He had left out the whole religion thing and I just thought he was moral but not into religion. Thinking back I wasn't too smart! I had been completely honest with how I was raised
3. How many times a month or week (whatever is easier to describe) does spiritual subjects come up in your home?
It comes up almost daily. We talk about JW's, Catholics, Mormons, Christian Scientists...Politics. We are very avid followers of the news and world events.
4. How do you relate/interact with other witnesses or congregation members?
My husbands JW family are wacko's and we have nothing to do with them. Some JW's are nice but alot are just too nosy. I only see them when they knock on my door, the supermarket, mall, or at a death in my husbands family. Mostly they don't recognize me anymore because I lost almost 200 pounds.
5. Do you talk to non-JW family about your JW spouse?
Yes of course! But not in a non-respectful way. Mainly to explain to them why we may or may not do or teach our children certain things.
6. Are you an "opposing mate"?
MOST DEFINATELY!!!!
7. If you are a Christian, what are the most contentious subjects with your JW spouse?
I was Jewish when I met my husband....but now I am a Messianic Jewish Agnostic Atheist..Don't Ask!
8. If you are an Agnostic/Athiest, what are the most contentious subjects with your JW spouse?
N/A
9. When/how/what made you realize your marriage/family was threatened by your spouse's JW affiliation?
When I was giving birth to my first son and the elders showed up at the hospital because I needed a blood transfusion...this is when I realized my life might be threatened by my husbands beliefs. When our first pediatrician treated us like freaks because of my husbands religious beliefs and told us that they would take us to court if we ever opposed the medical treatment prescribed...I thought that his religion might be a problem in our life. When the Elders treated me like I was stupid for asking reasonable questions - I really figured out our life might be impacted by his religion. When the Elders sent my husband out into service with a single beautiful sister and repeated that she would make a good wife and mother...I knew I had to take action!
10. My favorite question, anything else to add?
I think that these polls should be composed into a file for the people that show up every week on this board saying...boo hoo - I'm dating a Jehovahs Witness - what should I do! I can't even stand to read those threads any longer....!
i can't believe how yummy these chocolates are!!
what is it about english chocolate that tastes soooooooo good?
must be the mad cows!!
I personally love Mirabou chocolate from Sweden the best....I get it from Ikea and Swedish/Scandinavian stores. It is soooo creamy and yummy!
If I don't have any of that I love Godiva's Truffles! They have a key lime and cranberry both with dark chocolate that are so yummy!
WG
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hey all its 2:26 am here and i cant sleep .
es
Congratulations Es,
I hope your day is just the way you want it to be. I am sure you will be beautiful! Marriage is a wonderful thing.....
Even on the worst day with my husband its still better than a day without him....don't know if that makes sense to anyone else but me...LOL!
Blessings,
WG
anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.
i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.
any experiences?
Under 74,
Nope, my aunt and uncle haven't learned to get along and probably never will.
My aunt goes around through life feeling as though she has been victimized by everyone - anything even a simple oops could be an act of agression towards her.....when in fact she is the person who starts most things...she's very attention hungry and does anything to get any kind of attention she can....she's the middle child....
And my uncle is the baby of 9 and can't do anything wrong....
Alot of them are getting together for a family Christmas this year.....I am very glad to be here in Massachussetts away from all the bliss and drama.
It's funny to me that when all my aunts and uncles get together a lot of them revert back to childhood behaviors.....making me thankful once again to be an only child!
WG
anybody have any yesterday or in the past during holiday gatherings?.
i kind of expect for there to be tensions with some people over the holidays because it can be stressful...but i also think that since my siblings and i didn't grow up celebrating anything that it adds an extra tension and can sometimes cause fights.
any experiences?
I remember one family holiday when my uncle told my 400 pound aunt to stop eating and snorted at her. She picked up a whole bowl of potato salad and threw it at his head breaking my grandmothers hutch behind him. Then my uncle threw the plate of olives and sweet pickles at her and went for the another bowl of some other food.
It was hard to see everything from the kids table...this whole scene caused my sweet grandmother to yell "What the f*ck are you doing - get out of my house!" to my aunt and uncle. My grandmother is not the type to curse unless you push her over the edge!
My other 2 uncles tossed both of them out and we cleaned up and started eating. My grandmother banned those 2 from family holiays because they wouldn't apologize to eachother and her...and they also wouldn't pay to replace her broken antique hutch.
Fast Forward 10+ years .......A similar scene played out as my grandfather was dying at home. This was the first and last time we had all been together since that Christmas. My grandparents 9 children and some of my cousins and their kids. That same uncle thought it would be funny to sneak up behind my Aunt as she was spending a couple minutes alone with my grandfather and stick a spoonful of potato salad down the back of her dress....my aunt started screaming, crying and punching. My uncle was laughing his head off holding a budweiser licking the potato salad spoon....Enter my step-dad and 2 uncles to toss both of them out of the house again. Neither one of them got to be with my grandfather the next day when all the rest of us were there when he took his last breath.
Sad and disgusting behavior.
WG